What?? This is old. You’ve heard this before. You’ve even done it before.
But don’t judge the book by its old cover.
Let me give you a pinpoint on how doing this can dramatically change your day, and therefore your life. It can put you in a state that’ll make you READY for opportunities.
There are opportunities around us ALL THE TIME. Amazing friendship, romantic relationships, once-in-a-lifetime career opportunities… they’re everywhere around you. If you’re in a social state, the people around you might show them to you. Let me illustrate…
This is a conversation between my old Nervous Virgin self and my current, more experienced self.
Narrator: Nervous Virgin Fred wouldn’t take this advice seriously. “There must be
2009-Nevous-Virgin-Fred: Oh, comooooon…
2016-Social-Messiah-Fred: Have you tried?
2009-Nervous-Virgin-Fred: Of course I have tried.
2016-Social-Messiah-Fred: What did you feel like when you tried?
Nervous Virgin: Probably fine.
Social Messiah: Horseshit. You’ve forgotten. Say hello to that guy..
Nervous Virgin: Uuuh.
Social Messiah: Seriously… say hello to that old fat guy. He needs it.
Nervous Virgin: This is pointless.
Social Messiah: Do it for him!
Nervous Virgin: Alright alright…
Nervous Virgin: H…hello sir.
Old fat guy: Uh… hey.
Nervous Virgin: Didn’t seem like he needed it.
Social Messiah: Trust me, you both needed this. Maybe you don’t feel that great now,
but was it that bad?
Nervous Virgin: Nah, it was alright. He probably thought I was weird.
Social Messiah: Maybe. Maybe he also also thought, “he probably thought I was grumpy”,
and now he’s gonna make sure he doesn’t. He’ll probably greet the driver when he’s entering that bus.
It doesn’t matter. He might have forgotten it by now. Especially about you. And you’re still alive. He didn’t shoot you. Congrats.
That lady with the hat. Go.
Nervous Virgin: Aaaah…
Nervous Virgin: Hello m’am.
Hat lady: Hi there.
Messiah: How was it?
Virgin: That was normal.
Messiah: It’ll keep getting better. That forrest gump guy. Really mean it this time. Go.
Forrest Gump guy: Hey, how’ you doin?
Messiah: Nice. The yoga girl. Fire!
Hot Yoga girl: Hiiii
Virgin: She smiled to me!
Messiah: People do that. Now you choose the next one. Get eye contact, then tell
the damn hello.
Virgin: How you doing?
Mom with baby stroller: I’m fine, how are you?
Virgin: Good, thank you.
Social Messiah: Do you notice any difference now?
Virgin: Yeah, at the first hello my throat was tense, so I sounded nervous. Now
I was almost singing my hellos, and she kind of had to respond.
Social Messiah: And how do you feel?
Virgin: Pretty fucking nice!
Social Messiah: Imagine when this becomes a habit. It’s not cheesy, you don’t have to
worry whether you’re being a creep. You create energy. You’re having a positive impact on both their state and yours. They win and you win.
Virgin: Creator of energy. That’s like God.
Social Messiah: And being God feels…?
Virgin: Pretty fucking nice.
Narrator: On the phone, same evening…
Virgin: Dude, I was flirting with the waitress!
Narrator: Virgin Fred told the story as if he had experienced something
Virgin: I felt so good after the hellos I did with you today, and I even did a number more that day. Later I met up with a friend at a pizza restaurant. All the energy I had accumulated from creating and receiving energy from others affected him too, and our meal. We were joking and laughing so much that our table became the headquarter of the restaurant. The waitress loved us, and I flirted with her back. I dont even remember what I said to her, but when we talked about football game going tomorrow we decided to watch it together at Baby Bar. She gave me her number and she’s bringing her other friend working there and we’re all gonna watch it together!