- I wouldn’t be where i am today if it weren’t for dealing with SA. I wouldn’t even be this comfortable around lots of people if I hadn’t been awkward and shy in the past. My frustration with the SA problem drove me out of it, and further. I’ve seen that happen with many former SA-strugglers. Their struggles with acceptance and making friends/girlfriends motivated them to study social dynamics and pursue excellence in their social life. That’s how they, not only got rid of the problem, but achieved excellence and charisma.
- A few words about introversion. Shy people tend to be introverted by nature. Introverted people can overcome their shyness. But introversion doesn’t need to be overcome. It’s a gift. There are tons of introverted leaders, entrepreneurs and artists. Even though they’re speaking into a microphone doesn’t mean they’re extraverted. There are also extraverted people with social anxiety. One thing I know for sure is that being introverted will not ruin your chances for success in life.
- The fact that you have social anxiety could be due to your brain being busy and good with something that perhaps makes it a little difficult to engage with people. For example, if you’re a writer and you spend many hours per day in your own world, it might take a bit longer to get used to talking to people after work.
- Introverted people connect better with people one-on-one. This is a tremendous power in friendships and romantic relationships. When the nervousness calms down, an introvert can make someone feel very comfortable.
- I think a lot of guys, especially in the pickup field, think women won’t like the introverted side of them. They think girls only like the loud, extroverted party guys. But look here… being around the life-of-the-party-character for an extended period of time can be EXHAUSTING. That’s how I feel. And there are enough girls who feel the same way. Also, girls have a greater need to talk than us, generally speaking, and being a guy who can lean back and listen won’t break the deal. Girls like to relax. You don’t have to be a loud party guy. It may look like that in a club environment. But the club is a place where people are only temporary. They also like to relax. The club is also a place where certain type of people go, with a certain frequency. There are highly attractive women who hate clubs, who would rather watch Netflix on Friday night, to wake up early the next day for their art class.