We’re not fearing being alone. We fear loneliness, which is just a state of mind, not a situation. Loneliness can arise even when you’re around people. You can even feel lonely when you’re around people you normally like, but somehow you feel disconnected.
We all get lonely at times. When you feel hopelessly lonely, surrender to your higher self, by for example praying or meditating. Moving will also help you get out of your head and into the present moment.
Whenever you’re feeling lonely or excluded, think about why you feel that way. Stay present with the feelings that arise.
Last summer I realized that I was alone. And I knew there was no point in whining about it, because I was the only one listening. So whenever my ego wanted to freak out or complain but didn’t find anyone to blame or get pity from, I couldn’t do anything but laugh. When I have “company” it’s only fairy tale. My friends, family, girlfriends, fans and haters – they’re only a reflection of me. All the ideas I have of them are just ideas, created by my mind. It’s a fairy tale, yes, but it’s a fairy tale to enjoy, and it’s all even more beautiful to me now.
You’re alone already! You came to the world alone and you’ll leave alone. You are alone in your own little universe. But loneliness is only temporary. This program will help you with that part.
If you don’t like that statement, think of it this way….
WE are alone.
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “we’re all one”. When a people is unified, going through a tragedy or social movement that touches all of them, this consciousness kicks in. Examples: 9/11 for Americans. In Norway there was the camp shooting where one guy shot and killed 69 kids. There were probably also events you remember happening within closer range, with your family and your local community, where you all felt unified.
Even though we can experience being unified, it doesn’t necessarily mean we know everything the others are thinking about. Our minds are separated, but WE are not.
We’re all the same consciousness, fooled by our minds thinking we’re separate. The same consciousness that is experiencing being you, having your name, having your body and your thoughts – this is the same consciousness that experience being Fred, having Fred’s body and thoughts.
IF you don’t judge/resist the loneliness, it will pass and change to oneness – which is what we’re seeking from other people anyway. The loneliness will pass… if you leave it alone 🙂
You Don’t Have to Be a Macho Man
A free man will crush the tough guy. It’s a bold statement, but in the long run, the free man will win, if the tough guy isn’t free.
The paradox is, the guy who has found his freedom won’t need to beat the tough guy. He has already won and doesn’t need to win anyone over.
There are real men who have found their masculinity and there are also fake macho men who pretend. The fake macho man has a tough-guy-look to protect his true self from being exposed. The inner man of the fake macho man is very fearful.
True masculinity comes out of having your shit together on all levels. Putting on a macho mask will only give you false protection, and will hinder you in connecting with people, including women.
A fake macho man might have a way of still getting laid, but his true self will eventually leak out, and will scare the girls away or attract girls with the same problems and introduce painful relationships.
The best way to find your masculinity is to be honest with yourself and others. That’s how you will get sincere feedback so you can get your shit together. The truth will set you free.
Some of our anxiety comes from our fears of not fitting into our gender roles. We, especially men, are afraid of being vulnerable. Me included. I’m scared of crying and showing certain feelings. But it’s fear, and my confidence is therefore limited. So my masculinity is also limited. A free man who doesn’t care about that is better of, more attractive and has a higher level of social freedom.