The question isn’t whether you’re masculine or feminine. The question is, “are you free?” Masculinity and femininity is a yin and yang in all of us. You have to allow them both to interact with each other.
The reason why we chase women is that we’re looking for feminine energy. It connects, just like a penis fits into a vagina. One of these energies we’re looking for in women are softer energies like compassion and innocence. But these feminine energies are experienced inside of us and created by our own perception. It is already there when we’re not putting on a fake macho act to hide it.
If you learn how to not resist these energies inside of you, you also won’t be as needy with the girls. Take off the macho mask. Girls don’t like looking at that. When you’re wearing a mask they don’t know who you are so they can’t trust you. Some of these fake machos are rapists for Christ’s sake.
And we can’t be afraid of “feminine traits” like love. Personally, I might have an intimacy issue with the closest people in my life. I get uncomfortable with using words such as “love”, “honesty” and intimate words like that. But if I’m afraid of something, I know that it’ll limit me. So one day I know I’ll have to face this fear.