A free man will crush the tough guy. It’s a bold statement, but in the long run, the free man will win, if the tough guy isn’t free.
The paradox is, the guy who has found his freedom won’t need to beat the tough guy. He has already won and doesn’t need to win anyone over.
There are real men who have found their masculinity and there are also fake macho men who pretend. The fake macho man has a tough-guy-look to protect his true self from being exposed. The inner man of the fake macho man is very fearful.
True masculinity comes out of having your shit together on all levels. Putting on a macho mask will only give you false protection, and will hinder you in connecting with people, including women.
A fake macho man might have a way of still getting laid, but his true self will eventually leak out, and will scare the girls away or attract girls with the same problems and introduce painful relationships.
The best way to find your masculinity is to be honest with yourself and others. That’s how you will get sincere feedback so you can get your shit together. The truth will set you free.
Some of our anxiety comes from our fears of not fitting into our gender roles. We, especially men, are afraid of being vulnerable. Me included. I’m scared of crying and showing certain feelings. But it’s fear, and my confidence is therefore limited. So my masculinity is also limited. A free man who doesn’t care about that is better of, more attractive and has a higher level of social freedom.